We’ve all seen an Instagram photo of a diamond engagement ring with the caption: “I said yes!”” Of course, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this Instagram post, but we’ve seen it many times. If you don’t like the traditional Tiffany background or halo background (Tiffany’s modern version), there are plenty of engagement rings to choose from. Many brides and grooms in modern society are abandoning tradition and turning their weddings – and all the accessories that come with them – into weddings that truly belong to them. Here are some tips for finding an unconventional engagement ring that suits your personal style.

1. Go for Another Stone

Teardrop Emerald Crown 18K Ring

Teardrop Emerald Crown 18K Ring

The easiest way to set your engagement ring apart from the rest is to ditch the diamond. Whether you’re not a fan of the diamond industry because of conflict diamonds or you just don’t like the look of them, going with another stone is certainly a more colorful and non-traditional approach to the engagement ring. Go with your birthstone gem or a stone in a color that you often wear.

A pearl ring might be a good compromise if you want a traditional style without the cookie cutter look of a diamond. If you still want a diamond but don’t want the same old look, diamonds are increasingly available in other colors like gray, black, or even aquamarine.

2. Choose a Non-Traditional Setting

Classic Style Halo Diamond White Gold Ring

Classic Style Halo Diamond White Gold Ring

Jewelers are starting to catch on that not every engaged person has a one-size-fits-all kind of style. Luckily this knowledge means that there are far more options for you to get an engagement ring look that you really love. Though the popular pronged setting is perfectly lovely, there are definitely way more settings to choose from that may suit your taste a little more.

The bezel setting is a unique look where the stone is completely encased in a precious metal. This is not only a complete contrast to a typical pronged setting, but it’s also one of the safest ways to set your ring because it’s less likely that the stone will get damaged. (Bonus: the stone is also less likely to rip out your hair when you run your fingers through it!)

Another unique setting style is the bar setting, where the stone (or stones) sits between two thin metal bars. This setting is often used in bracelets, but isn’t seen as often in engagement rings. A bar setting allows the stone to catch a lot of light and gives the ring a really modern, sleek look.

3. Play Around With Unique Bands

Vintage Texture Marquise Diamond Ring

Vintage Texture Marquise Diamond Ring

The classic wedding band is usually thin, round, and typically plays second fiddle to the large stone. However, there is a lot of room to make the band the star of the show in order to get a truly unique look for your engagement ring.

Try a square band, which is quite a jump from the traditional round band. Square bands create a funky, geometrically intriguing look for your engagement ring and are supposed to have a much more comfortable fit. You could also go with an engagement ring that has several small stones all over the band, often referred to as a forever ring.

4. Go Vintage

If you love old-fashioned things and most of your clothes and home décor comes from an antique store, you might want to consider shopping for a vintage engagement ring. Grab your partner, set a budget, and check out the Cheap Jewelry Sites section of your local antique store or conduct your search at a weekend flea market.

Vintage Vine Green Opal Ring

Vintage Vine Green Opal Ring

Many vintage-obsessed brides are on the lookout for art deco rings, which are solitaire gems that are framed with handcrafted geometric metal. Cluster rings and floral rings, popular in the 1960s and 1970s, will also likely set your ring apart from all the solitaire settings that you often see on modern brides. Buying vintage will not only help you stand out from everyone else, but you’ll also have a really great story to tell about your hunt for the perfect ring.

5. Try a More Minimalist Look

Classic Style Solitaire Rose Gold Ring

Classic Style Solitaire Rose Gold Ring

Mila Kunis recently gave an interview saying that she and husband Ashton Kutcher spent a grand total of $190 on their wedding rings that they purchased on Etsy. Mila’s wedding ring is thin and minimalist. If you hate the idea of a really ostentatious ring or you’re worried about the expense of a traditional engagement ring, consider just going with a simple band. They’re cheaper, they match with everything, and they aren’t are often easier to replace.

Go With What You Like

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Remember, when it comes to modern weddings, there are no rules for new rules. Find a ring that suits your personality, budget and make you happy. No one even says you have to have an engagement ring – try using bracelets, necklaces or tattoos instead of jewelry. Whatever your style, make all your wedding accessories right for you, not the other way around.